One of the most effective pick up techniques to attract women is hoops. This is a concept originally developed by Mystery. According to him, the idea of hoop theory goes something like this: Women throw out hoops, and when they do you’ve got a couple of options.
For example, she might say, “buy me a drink.” This is actually a qualifier. She’s trying to get you to qualify yourself by seeing if you’re going to buy her a drink in order to hang out with her. She’s setting a frame for you. It says that you have to pay money to talk to her, and this puts a higher value on her and a lower one on you.
In other words, buying her that drink is going to bring a whole bunch of bad stuff with it. This doesn’t mean that you should never buy her one. But if she asks you early on in the encounter, she’s trying to set a frame that you’re a lower value than she is.
So, one option is to jump through the hoop. You can say, “Cool, alright, I’ll buy you a drink.” This isn’t a bad idea always, but it usually is, especially if it’s in the first few minutes of talking to her.
Another option is to ignore it. As pick up artist Captain Jack says, “The No. 1 rules of pick up is – anything that doesn’t help you, you can ignore it.” So you can just keep talking and if she doesn’t bring it up again, it’s over and done with.
Or you can put a hoop in front of her. You say, “I don’t usually buy strangers drink, but you get this one and I’ll get the next one.” Now, if she buys the drink, you’ve got her qualifying herself to you!
The point is that you’ve got to know hoops because you can make them work for you; but also because she’s going to be throwing them in front of you as well.
There are different sized hoops. For example, a small one would be “Are you a good friend?” “What would your best friend say about you?” is a slightly bigger one, and something like “What is your favorite thing about yourself?” is a huge one. The smaller ones are easier to use and they’ll usually get a response, but the big ones are higher risk and higher reward. When using hoops with your pick up artist techniques, it’s important to keep an eye on this. Mix up some small ones with medium ones, and save the big ones for later.